Have you ever been tickled pink? How about happy as a clam? What about over the moon?
These metaphors and hundreds like them in every language are ways folks around the world attempt to describe ‘the joy of living‘. It’s your birthright to experience an ‘exultation of spirit’ and enjoy ‘a cheerful enjoyment of life’. And when life is firing on all cylinders it should be easy, relaxing, and fun!
Except when it isn’t. Your life, like mine, has no doubt had its share of flat tires, wrong turns, and short circuits. The universe tends to be a prankster and the road to greener pastures is pitted with potholes.
It’s almost as if the great movie director in the sky takes devilish delight in making us star in dramas, disasters, and dark comedies before we land our dream role in a fairy tale. In the film industry, it’s called ‘paying your dues’.
It helps to cultivate a belief that the path of rising consciousness is an upward spiral and to learn what to pack in your metaphysical knapsack to smooth your path along the way.
Values like honesty, integrity, and honor. Traits like grit, gumption, and generosity. Abilities like empathy, imagination, and curiosity. Trust in your gut, your voice, your creativity, and your body’s wisdom. You have to roll up your sleeves and find the willingness to adapt, be humble, and admit it when you were wrong.
Some of life’s lessons are only learned on the far side of tough times. What it means to turn the other cheek, rise above, and ‘be big about it’. How to ‘bury the hatchet’. To ‘forgive and forget’. And sometimes the hardest of all; how to give your own self a break!
These are the sort of things that, in an ideal world, one would hope to learn and embody by early adulthood. I hope you are one of the fortunate ones who did. My life’s movie was well into the later reels before I even realized the importance of leveling up.
So as I sit hurtling towards San Francisco 40,000 feet in the air pecking this New Year’s edition of Monday Love into my phone on my way home from France, I can’t help but wonder and trust that maybe, just perhaps, I’ve finally learned enough of the hard lessons to clear the way for love. Because I’m sure feeling a lot of joie de vivre!
Earlier this year in a slightly mysterious edition of Monday Love I wrote about how you never know when your path can turn on a dime and have you suddenly living, breathing, and loving an entirely new life. If you were reading between the lines you might have guessed that there had been a seismic shift in my private world, what I didn’t share then was that her name is Isabelle.
Since our eyes started dancing over the turntables at Dance Jam earlier this fall we’ve been in orbit with each other nonstop. We did a delightful road trip to Oregon at Thanksgiving to meet my Dad, and just now spent the Christmas holiday with her folks at their family home in a small country village in the Vallée de la Loire , not far from the Château de Chenonceau, above.
One thing we had in common was a willingness to be content with ourselves before settling for a less-than-fulfilling connection. I’m really just happy to share the joy in my (our) life(s) in hopes of inspiring more joie de vivre in yours!
It seems like you have to get to that point where you’re happy with yourself and have worked most of your bugs out before the cosmic director is ready to let you catch the eye of someone you’re happy being inseparable with.
On whatever dimension in life, be it family, livelihood, creativity, or relationships, spend some personal time getting out of your own way and keep putting your hearts desire out there into the universe. If you make the effort to fix your own personal set of potholes you’ll find a smoother road ahead leading straight to your dreams.
Regardless of the metaphor you choose, your path is meant to spiral up, climb the ladder, or ascend the cosmic escalator if you prefer. Your consciousness will thank you if you get down to business in the physical world and do the work it takes to rise up the spiral. I’ve never known anyone who felt happier going down. And life’s too short to spin around in circles!
The New Year is a great time to share joy and excitement and I hope that ours is inspiring to you! As we dance across the threshold into the New Roaring Twenties, may you have love in your heart, peace in your soul, and joie de vivre all around you!
Much love until next week, and blessings on the dawn of a new decade! Bonne Année and Au revoir!
Director of the Dance First Association
Publisher of Conscious Dancer Magazine