"Be careful of the words you say, Keep them short and sweet. You never know, from day to day, Which ones you'll have to eat."
Are you careful about how you speak? Do you pay close attention to the words that come out of your mouth? What happens when the lightbulb of an idea appears above your head?
As members of the human family, we all have one thing in common. We love to talk a lot! Obviously, some people are better at it than others, and the way in which people do it runs the gamut from the proverbial “man of few words” to that one person you know who is always “running off at the mouth.”
Frankly, some people are simply in love with the sound of their own voice. Knowing how to be quiet and be a good listener doesn’t come naturally for everybody, some folks need to put some effort into learning the skills. There is definitely a difference between actual listening and simply waiting to talk.
Words are an important part of the process of manifestation, and they appear early on. If you think about how almost anything man (or woman)-made appears in the world, the steps go something like this. Maybe there is a problem to be solved or a specific solution needed for some sort of physical situation. Or perhaps it’s a purely creative inspiration, with a piece of art, a song, or a work of fiction eager to appear.
Somewhere deep in our somatic body, where our consciousness makes its nest, an idea springs forth and bounces around between our head, our heart, and our gut. At this point, we still have a choice, obviously many ideas are better left unsaid. But if it’s a good one, and assuming we are willing to allow it to move on to the next level, we might say it out loud to ourselves or another person, or perhaps write it down.
This is when an idea starts to gain power. The word itself whether spoken or written is a vibrational imprint on the universe. If someone else hears or reads it and is responsive, the idea gains momentum and increases its resonance with the other person acting as an amplifier. Words are incredibly powerful, with the ability to shape your entire life.
I would venture to guess that you have a few careless or cruel phrases that were said to you at some point in your early years that haunt you in the form of limiting beliefs or specters of self-doubt. Teachers, relatives or schoolyard bullies all had the power to plant seeds of self-sabotage within you without a second thought. Almost everyone I know, myself included, makes getting past these mental gremlins a life-long project.
Once a word, whether written or spoken, is put forth into the universe, it can begin to magnetize more and more power and resources to it. Words become plans, agendas are made, steps are spelled out, and soon things begin to happen. Leaders use words to inspire action from team members or followers. Songs get stuck in people’s heads and travel from ear to ear. Stories get told and retold.
The greatest projects in the world all began with someone expressing an idea in words. Long before there was a Golden Gate Bridge someone had to have had that lightbulb moment when they said, “Wow, wouldn’t it be great if we could get across the water here without a boat!”
“Be impeccable with your word. ” is one of The Four Agreements ofdon Miguel Ruiz , and arguably the foundation of the other three. If you are sloppy with your words, it’s hard to not take anything personally, never make assumptions, and always do your best.
The fact is, you get to define who you are, and your word choices impact the way you see yourself and present yourself to the world. Take, for instance, the subtle difference between the words “can’t” and “don’t.” When you say that you “can’t” do something, you’re saying that the decision is out of your hands. That apparently there’s some sort of outside factor preventing you from doing something, so why even bother? You’re selling yourself short with a disempowering approach.
If you say “I don’t” do something, you’ve changed the narrative. The power to make a choice is firmly in your hands. You’ve given yourself the power to make a decision and you’re one step closer to being able to say that you “do” do something. It also frees your mind to find solutions, because the next logical step after saying you “don’t do something” is to ask yourself “why not?” If you want to become the person who does that thing you now have the ability to choose.
For me, a good example of this was the idea of remembering names. Like so many people, I used to say “I can’t remember people’s names very well. ” But then about 10 years ago my then 81-year-old (and now dearly-departed) mom came to town and went to a big event with me. I must’ve introduced her to at least 20 or more new people that day, and the remarkable thing was that as everyone was leaving she said goodbye to them using their names.
My friends commented on her ability for a long time afterward, as if she had some superpower. I got to wondering about it and started thinking in terms of ”I don’t remember names very well” so how could I improve? By shifting from a mindset of “I can’t” into to “How do I?” I was able to start learning some basic techniques that helped me get better at this.
Give yourself the opportunity to observe your words a little more closely. You might find that all you need to dance past some of the obstacles in your life is a shift in narrative. Your mind is a powerful force for creating what you want in life, and it works so much better when you remove the roadblocks!
Be well and make the most of your week to come!
Much love till next Monday!
Conscious Dancer Community Spotlight :: Polly Triplat, her Soulwise Sojourn retreats, and Sierra Conscious Dance!
This week’s Dance First Member Spotlight shines on Open Floor facilitator Polly Triplat of Sierra Conscious Dance fame and her upcoming Soulwise Sojourn day-long retreats at the spectacularSierra Hot Springs in Sierraville, CA!
Your first opportunity is coming right up with “Nurture” happening on Earth Day, Monday April 22nd, followed just over a month later by “Sow your Seeds ”, a New Moon retreat happening on the first Monday in June, on the 3rd.
Polly and I go way back to the early days of Conscious Dancer and she has earned a huge amount of credibility and credit for her work as a founding-member of the Sierra Conscious Dance Collectiveholding a roster of regular classes and events in the Tahoe, Truckee, and Reno region.
I’m so happy to see Polly expanding her practice and earning more credentials in the field! A recent graduate of the Open Floor training, she can now add that body of work to her existing roster of modalities including Bodywise Massage , Soulwise Movement, and the SoulCollage creative process.
If you’ve never made the trip to Sierra Hot Springs, this is your time to say YES and reserve your spot today. Sierra Hot Springs is a rustic and historic retreat center nestled in an alpine valley near Truckee, California. With snow-capped peaks on the horizon and the flowers of spring emerging in the meadow, it is a destination that is well worth the trip.
With Polly as your ambassador for these day-long Soulwise Sojourns , you’re in good hands to relish the full Sierra Hot Springsexperience! You’ll dance, you’ll journey, and you’ll create, and you’ll also enjoy delicious organic meals, spa and sauna facilities, and Sierra’s famous collection of sand-bottomed indoor and natural rock-lined outdoor hot-spring pools.
Polly says “ I’m passionate about giving people the opportunity to take time for healing, connecting and creating in community. My workshops and retreats combine my various healing arts and movement practices to offer well-being and embodiment to individuals and groups.”
If you happen to be live nearby or are passing through the Truckee area on a Friday evening, be sure to attend the collectively-heldSierra Conscious Dance , happening weekly at the Tahoe Yoga and Wellness center. Polly brings the Open Floor energy, while Laurie Martin (aka AhMuse) offers Dancing Freedom, and Breeze-la adds an element of high-vibration sound to the music with Healing Bowls and Beats.
Thanks so much Polly for all your continued inspiration and leadership in the field! Congratulations on completing your Open Floor training and we’ll keep on supporting and amplifying your work in the years to come!
Nurture – Earth Day Soulwise Retreat
April 22, Sierra Hot Springs, Sierraville, CA
Sow Your Seeds – New Moon Soulwise Retreat
June 3, Sierra Hot Springs, Sierraville, CA
Sierra Conscious Dance
Every Friday, 7 – 9pm, Tahoe Yoga and Wellness, Truckee, CA
Dancing Freedom with AhMuse or Beats and Bowls with Breeze-la
1st and 3rd Sundays, 10am to Noon, River School Farm, Reno, NV